Parenting methods and opinions often vary from country to country. According to This Is Insider, U.K. parents are far more lax about things such as screen time and using cuss words in front of their children than their U.S. counterparts.
The Huffington Post adds that European parents are a bit stricter when it comes to teaching their child good manners and the proper utensils to use to eat one’s meal when attending a fancy dress event.
They also don’t like coddling their children, especially when they throw a temper tantrum in public, and they tend to be very strict when it comes to putting their child to bed at a proper time.
In contrast, there are some moms here that don’t know how to deal with a child throwing a temper tantrum in public and wind up trying to cajole them into calming down by promising to purchase the item that they kicked up a fuss over or making a pit stop to get a yummy treat like ice cream if they calm down in the grocery store.
For moms that are curious about what common mistakes are made in the US, here’s a list that explores how parenting methods truly vary from country to country.
21 They Don't Utilize Midwives As Much
Romper points out that in some other places across the globe, such as in Britain, it is pretty common for pregnant mothers to be seen by a midwife and utilize their services throughout the duration of their pregnancy instead of the usual OB/GYN that mothers here tend to use.
The good thing about seeing a midwife instead of the traditional OB/GYN is that they will often visit the new mothers and their infant at home after they have given birth. Since new moms get to have specialized care tailored to their specific needs, that means less time they have to spend recuperating in a hospital bed.
20 Napping On The Go Is A Mystery To Them
Romper adds that in places like Britain, many mothers have taught their children to master the art of napping on the go and that allows them to take their little ones out and about in a stroller without having to worry that their child is going to wake up and start exercising their lungs in the middle of a trip to the grocery store.
Instead of sticking close to home because mothers are concerned that their little one will not be able to sleep unless they’re in their own crib for nap time, it is far more convenient to teach a little one to nap through any circumstances so that moms have a bit more leeway with their schedule.
19 Relying Too Much On Fast Food
When I was a little girl, fast food was pretty much a staple at my house because both of my parents worked full-time jobs and there were some days (mainly at the end of the week) when they felt too tired to muster up the energy to cook meals for two children, so we’d get takeout from the local McDonald’s or grab a slice of pizza from the nearest pizzeria.
Romper points out that in other parts of the world, giving a child fast food is a huge faux pas because it is a commonly held belief that kids need to experience all sorts of different kinds of food and not just takeout.
18 Being Too Into The Idea Of Independence For Kids After A Certain Age
In our modern society, once you hit the age of 18 you are considered a legal adult and in the past, people this age could either go off to college or start working at a full-time job and move out on their own. Even though many adults have wound up living back at home in this day and age for a wide variety of reasons, there’s still plenty of parents that count down the days until their child moves out on their own and foster independence for their kids at an early age.
Romper points out that in other cultures, the idea of an 18 year old being independent or moving out on their own in their early 20s is considered bizarre and many adult children still live with their parents until marriage or another life change.
17 Suspicious Of Vaccines
The Independent points out that thanks to the wariness surrounding vaccinations in this day and age, there are pockets across the country where there is an outbreak of measles going on and doctors are working hard to contain the spread of it, lest anyone else catch it.
Sure, there are certainly people all over the world that are suspicious about vaccines and buy into the hysteria, but by and large, most parents in other countries tend to follow the traditional childhood vaccination schedule so that their little one will help boost the herd immunity in their society and won’t have to deal with annoying viruses such as the measles.
16 Too Rigid About TV Time
This Is Insider points out that U.K. parents tend to be more lenient when it comes to the amount of screen time their child watches and generally they don’t get their garters in a wad if their toddler wants to use an educational app on their tablet.
Screen time amongst mothers in the US is a hotly debated topic and both sides have very devoted adherents. Some moms are very strict and won’t even let their little one touch a tablet until they are six or seven years old because they feel bad about letting electronics “parent” their child. Others are a bit more lax with screen time rules and don’t mind putting on Sesame Street so they can get a few moments to themselves.
15 Bragging About Their Child's Accomplishments
We’ve all met the stereotypical braggart type of mom and can easily name one that lives in our neighborhood. Typically, they love telling everyone and anyone about their child’s latest accomplishments down to the most minute detail and will crow about the latest trophy their child brought home morning, noon and night.
This Is Insider points out that this isn’t the norm in places like Britain because they believe in having a “stiff upper lip” and dislike showing strong emotions while out in public. They either won’t talk much about their child’s latest accomplishments or will make a funny remark about it.
14 Hovering Over Their Child Like A Helicopter
According to Parents, helicopter parenting, which is when a mom or dad hovers over their child both day and night because they are concerned about what could happen to their precious son or daughter, is a big trend amongst US moms and if you go to any playground, you’ll definitely see plenty of mothers hovering right by their kid’s side as they scamper around the jungle gym.
This isn’t always a popular parenting method to use for moms in other countries because they feel it is best to let a child experience the world a bit in an age-appropriate manner and learn from their mistakes.
13 Controlling A Child's Schedule Down To The Last Minute
Fatherly points out that parents in other parts of the world are totally flabbergasted when they find out that it is quite common for parents to control their child’s schedule down to the very last second because in their opinion, that’s too rigid and then your child will never learn good time-management skills for themselves.
For example, one of my neighbors is very strict when it comes to creating her daughter’s schedule and because of that, it doesn’t leave her child with enough time to just kick back and relax at home. The poor kid actually developed an upset stomach because of the immense pressure she was under. Makes me grateful my parents were the odd ones out and never tried to come up with a schedule for me.
12 Rescuing Their Child If They're Struggling To Accomplish Something
Fatherly writes that there are some moms out there that erroneously believe that they have to protect their son or daughter by jumping in to help their little one every time they’re struggling to accomplish something.
It’s one thing to notice that your child isn’t good with subject like math and hire a math tutor to help bring their grades up which is what my mom and dad did with me when I was in elementary school, but parents in other countries try not to rescue their child because they feel it’s important that their little one learn to help themselves.
11 Focusing On Results, Not Effort
When I was in junior high school and in high school, several classmates of mine were practically going grey because they were under a lot of pressure by their parents in order to maintain excellent grades and they often felt upset if they got anything lower than a B on a report or even a test. It always made me thank my lucky stars that my parents were happy when I got good grades, but didn’t put any pressure on me to be a straight A student.
Aha! Parenting notes that there are too many moms that focus on getting results and making sure that their child maintains “perfection” instead of focusing on the immense effort they made in order to achieve their goals.
10 Overindulging The Little One
The Huffington Post points out that in places such as England or even Germany, most parents are not afraid of telling their child “no” and would not be very happy if they saw a fellow parent over-indulging their little one in public.
This is the total opposite for many moms here because for some reason or another, they seem to be allergic to using the word “no” and will immediately try to plead for their little one to behave when they’re throwing a temper tantrum at the grocery store or they’ll appease their child by purchasing them candy in order to divert their attention. It is okay to tell a child no from time to time, people!
9 Enrolling Your Child Into Too Many Activities At Once
Fatherly points out that moms in other parts of the world are totally baffled when they find out that moms here have a tendency to sign their children up for any and all activities and have to control their child's schedule at all times.
Some mom enroll their child in things like sports, drama classes and dance classes in order to keep them out of mischief, others because they themselves need a bit of a break and other moms feel it’s important to have a well-rounded kid, but while these are all fine explanations, it’s not a good idea to go overboard and totally tire your child out with all these activities.
8 Acting Hyper-Critical
Some moms from other countries are surprised to learn that many moms here can be overly critical of their child when they make mistakes because they feel that scrutinizing their every move will make them more successful.
Unfortunately, Fatherly notes that there have been some parenting experts that have decried this sort of thing because instead of inspiring a child to be more successful next time around, it only leads to more pressure and there’s a chance that your child will feel the need to become a perfection due to the fact that you inadvertently taught them that mistakes aren’t a good thing to make.
7 They Don't Regulate Meals
In other parts of the globe, most parents do their best to try and regulate their children’s meals and ask them if they are full before they take their plate away to be washed in the dishwasher.
Fatherly points out that more moms need to try to regulate their child’s meals and only let them finish what they need in order to feel full so that way they don’t accidentally wind up training their stomach to take in larger amounts in order to satisfy their hunger or unknowingly teaching them to chow down their meals way past the point of being hungry.
6 Lecturing Too Much
Aha! Parenting notes that in other countries, most parents try to focus on encouraging their child to achieve their goals because it helps them develop the necessary inner voice that they’ll need to inspire them to keep going once they are adults.
Sadly, there are some moms that have not jumped on the bandwagon for this method and still believe in the old-fashioned method of lecturing their child as a way to “encourage” them, although this typically backfires on them. For example, my childhood’s best friend’s mom always lectured her about every topic under the sun and as a result, the two had a rocky relationship when she was a teenager.
5 Placating Fussy Children At Bedtime
In Europe, The Huffington Post writes that most parents are very strict when it comes to enforcing a proper bedtime schedule for their children and they are not flexible when it comes to a child wheedling their parents to stay up an hour later to watch a movie or a television show.
It is the polar opposite here, as many moms in the US often struggle to put their child to bed and rely on entertaining their little one with bedtime stories in the hopes that it will lull them to sleep, distract them by turning on a nightlight or give in to their pleading on a regular basis.
4 Lack Of Attention To Teaching Your Child Good Manners
According to The Huffington Post, parents in places like many Western European countries feel that it is essential to instill good manners into their children from the time they are very young and would be very upset if their child didn’t say “please” or “thank you” on a daily basis.
Moms here tend to be a bit lax when it comes to teaching their children manners and only teach their little one the basics because having them learn the rest is just too much work for a busy parent. As a result, these children don’t have “please” and “thank you” in their vocabulary and they certainly don’t know the proper utensils to use during a dinner course at a fancy restaurant.
3 Believing Everything You Hear
Parents points out that in other countries, moms usually go to their doctors or their child’s pediatrician if they need advice on how to treat a rash or ease a sore throat.
More moms really need to kick start their critical thinking skills and instead of believing everything that they hear from their sister-in-law, their sibling or even their own parents, to go to an expert in the subject and ask for their opinion. For example, some moms might receive conflicting advice on the use of a pacifier and will shy away from it instead of just calling up her child’s pediatrician and asking them what they think about it.
2 Your Spouse Doesn't Get As Much Attention As They Used To
Parents adds that a common mistake many US moms make is that they often go overboard when caring for their newborn and as a result, neglect their spouse or their significant other because they are so wrapped up in their new role.
In other countries, moms try to achieve a good balance between making time to spend with their significant others and taking care of their infant instead of going to extremes. They’re also more willing to recruit grandparents, other relatives or a professional babysitter ASAP so that mom and dad can enjoy a nice meal at a fancy restaurant every few weeks or so.
1 Taking On Too Much Responsibility At Once
According to Parents, many moms here often mess up because they’re trying to take on too much responsibility onto their own shoulders instead of following the lead of other moms in places across the globe and reaching out to their significant other, family and friends for help.
For example, there are plenty of moms that wind up feeling burned out early on because they insist on doing everything for their newborn instead of letting others help them out. For example, not wanting the dad to change their son or daughter’s diapers or having grandma come over and bottle-feed the new baby.