No matter where you are in the world, the experience of having a baby is a very personal and private occurrence, even after you give birth. Is it worth paying a ton of extra money just to get that little bit of privacy after having a baby?
Everybody has different preferences and no experience is the same, here’s a few tips and advice to help you decide whether or not you would like to share a room after having a baby, especially for those new mommas-to-be.
8 Post-Baby Symptoms
There’s no doubt that labor and delivery are the hardest and most painful parts of having a child, but lucky us, the pain still isn’t over. Post baby symptoms are not fun, especially when you have to endure them next to a total stranger.
You’re trying to bond with your newborn and adapt to motherhood while feeling incredibly uncomfortable, the last thing you want to do is worry about the person next to you.
For instance, right after having a baby, expect to leave a trail of fluid on the floor or be stuck in the bathroom for long periods of time, meaning you’ll have to put up with the person next to you doing the same thing.
Now, it’s not the end of the world and we’re sure your roommate knows exactly where you’re coming from, but if you are someone that likes to keep to themselves you might want to invest in a private room post-baby.
7 Quality Time
The first few days after your little one is born are one of the most unforgettable. It’s a time to bond with baby and let them know who brought them into this world. Honestly, nothing can get in the way of these special moments, no matter where you are. Though this quality time is unlikely to be hindered, you’ll most likely find yourself wanting to bond with baby in the comfort of your own home.
Listening to the mom next to you talking, or the sound of their baby crying does not set the perfect tone for a beautiful moment with your child.
The worst is when you’re incredibly tired after giving birth (literally, it feels like you ran a marathon), you just put your little bundle of joy to bed and the baby next to you starts getting fussy and wakes your little one up—yup, it’s happened to the best of us, not fun at all.
To keep your mind off of the girl next door, try some bonding exercises with your newborn. According to babycenter.com, a great way to increase the bond between mommy and baby is by skin-to-skin cuddling and eye contact.
6 Limited Space
In most cases, sharing a room equals limited space, especially when your spouse is staying the night as well. After giving birth, the last thing you want to do is squeeze into a single bed with your significant other. Usually if you have a private room, the hospital will offer a pull out couch for visitors that are staying the night. That way you both have a little bit more space to sleep.
It’s not just the bed. Remember, when you have a baby there’s a lot of stuff to bring to the hospital. You have your bags, your significant other’s bags, the diaper bag and anything you may have brought for when you were giving birth. Navigating around all of this stuff while trying to get out of bed, that much harder when you’re sharing a small space.
Ask a visitor, or your significant other to bring some stuff you may not need anymore home or to the car. Take it from us, the less clutter, the less stress. You’ll need a lot of room to navigate when you’re walking around strapped to a machine.
We love, Skip Hop DUO DOUBLE hold-it-all diaper bag.It’s super compact and organized. It also comes with a stroller strap to make it easier for you and your loved ones, when you have a bunch of stuff to carry out of the hospital.
5 Limited Attention
You know how they say everyone is equal, well sometimes that might not be true.When you are in a shared room, your time with the nurses is limited. We understand nurses are busy bees and they are there to help us feel more comfortable, but it’s hard to give someone 100 percent of your attention when there’s another mother waiting their turn right next to you.
Don’t be afraid to ask the nurse as many questions as possible. As a new mother, your radar is ultra high and your emotions are off the charts. If making sure you and baby are okay eases your mind a bit, then do it!
If you need a few more pillows to get a good night sleep, or if you’re worried about baby, ring that bell as much as possible, that’s what those lovely nurses are there for. Just make sure you get the attention you need.
According to criticalconditions.com, give your nurse appreciation and try to establish a relationship. This will show the nurse you mean well and might get them to pay better attention to you and your needs.
You may be a people person and love chatting and making friends after giving birth, but likely that will be the last thing on your mind. When sharing a room, you don’t really have much say on who you have to share it with. It’s not like you can fill out a questionnaire on your perfect post-baby roommate.
Who know’s, you may get someone that keeps to themselves, or you may get the roommate from hell. No matter what, you are bound to be disturbed once or twice, or maybe a dozen times. Especially during visiting hours, when you have people coming in and out throughout the day.
You can’t always blame people for disturbing you, how are they suppose to know you’re busy right? Here’s a little secret--before you go into labor, make little signs that you can hang on the outside of your curtain.
For example, you can write one that says ‘sleeping’, or ‘feeding’. This allows, nurses, your roommate, and visitors to know you are busy, making it less likely for you to be disturbed. You can find a ton of great craft ideas for easily made signs on Pinterest Boards!
3 Benefits Of Sharing: It’s Not So Bad After All
By now you’re probably completely dreading sharing a room, but it’s not all that bad. There’s something refreshing about sharing a room with someone that went through the same thing as you. We are all complete strangers, yet we all shared a very similar experience.
It’s someone you can relate to, share notes with, ask questions and confide in. Who knows, you might even end up becoming good friends, or setting up a future play-date for you and your baby.
If you tend to get super awkward when meeting new people, try some conversation starters. This sounds totally cheesy, but who has to know!
Melanie Dale’s printable conversation starters Women are Scary can be a great help in making new friends in the hospital room. It’s just one less thing you need to worry about.
2 Sharing A Space Means Sharing A Bathroom
Oh, the lovely bathrooms. The bathroom will be your second home for a little while. Most new mamma’s are eager to get all cleaned up after giving birth, the hot water helps relieve pain as well, so waiting your turn to do so isn’t too appealing.
Not to mention, you feel like you have to rush because you don’t want to seem like you’re hogging the bathroom. If you have a private room, you could be in their all night and no one can say anything about it.
Stock up on panties and toiletries. The last thing you want to happen to you when you’re sharing a room is to make a huge mess in the bathroom (believe me, things can get pretty messy). Try to create a quick and easy clean up by bringing lots of extra panties ( big comfy undies) and extra ultra absorbent pads. The hospital will probably provide this for you, but if you’re sharing, chances are you’ll run out fast.
Shh, here’s a little secret, Depend disposable underwear is a must-have for post-baby! It’s super quick to put on, absorbent and doesn’t make a mess! It might not feel as light as a feather but honestly, that’ll be the last thing on your mind!
1 Things That Help The Process
There are some things you can do to help the process of sharing a room. Our first tip, try to get all of your testing done as soon as possible. The quicker baby get’s the go-to the sooner you can go home.
Another great tip, bring headphones or ask if the hospital has some. This is good for soothing you to sleep as well as blocking out any extra noise that the person next to you might be making. Just make sure you and your hubby aren’t both plugged in—someone needs to keep an ear out for the little one.
Next up, organize your hospital bag before you get to the hospital. This makes it so much easier in a tight space, when you don’t have much room to look around.
Tip number four, it’s okay to say no to visitors. You just spent 5-25 hours pushing a baby out of you, you deserve the peace and quiet, especially when it’s limited in a shared space. There is always time for family and friends to see baby once you arrive home, don’t be afraid to give them the boot until you get some much needed rest.
And Finally, bring hand sanitizer or mittens for baby. Most likely the hospital will have some, but it’s always safe to have some on hand. When sharing a room, you and baby are more prone to germs. This is because there are likely to be a lot of people coming in and out of the room.
Plus, it’s always nice to have sanitizer on hand, when your friends and family come to see the baby as well. Guava Mitts, are perfect for wrapping around your newborn’s tiny little hands. Not only are they super cute, but they’re made from 70 % bamboo and organic cotton, to keep your baby away from toxic material and germs! Definitely a must-try.
There you have it ladies, the brutal truth of sharing a hospital room. We’re sure the majority of you would prefer a private room, but sometimes that’s not always in the cards. So, remember these simple tips and advice and you’ll be perfectly prepared in case you have to bunk up.
A little tidbit of advice, most likely the woman beside you has a good idea of what you’re going through, so don’t be afraid to be yourself. Remember, you just brought this beautiful miracle into the world and if it means sharing a room for a few days, it’s totally worth it.
Let us know your experience sharing a hospital room post-baby!