My two-year-old is the first grandchild on both sides of the family. That means he is going to be the most spoiled grandchild of all grandchildren ever. Primarily because everyone wants to celebrate having his awesome kid-ness in the family and they want to spoil him. And to be quite honest - I'm okay with my family spoiling my son.
Shep knows that his grandparents and aunts and uncles all love and care for him. All of those people get the joy of doing all the fun stuff without having to be a disciplinarian. I can avoid buying toys for my son, so it's a win for my budget. It's a win-win-win.
I don't really want to buy my kid a bunch of toys because at the end of the day he ends up playing with an empty cereal box anyway. What's the point of spending a bunch of money on something when he's just as happy with literal trash?
But I digress. The real reason i don't by my son any toys is because I don't have to. I am incredibly lucky in that we have family that are able to provide toys for our son, and who want to give him toys. He just had a birthday (a very cool Daniel Tiger birthday party!), and Shep received (in addition to many other awesome things) a basketball hoop set, his first set of power tools, his first backpack (Daniel Tiger themed!), and a big-boy cot! Point being: everyone spoils this kid senseless. Other people have already bought all these amazing toys for him. Generally speaking, they're much nicer toys than I would ever spoil him with.
I also don't want Shep to get used to me buying toys for him on a regular basis. Instead of using them as tools to discipline or reward him, I'd like toys to be something we give one another as a celebration and a sharing of joy. Maybe because I recognize it's a shared moment of joy that I welcome the generosity toward my son (and let's be honest, his sister is also super spoiled by all of these same people).
He already has all the toys he could ever want. There is no more room in his room for more toys. I just downsized and organized his toys, and I'm telling you - I don't know how much more I can fit in one space. I want to make sure he's not drowning in toys - I'm pretty sure it would take a day or two for him to play with every single thing he owns. At the end of the day, I want him to appreciate the toys that he has and show gratitude for the blessings he's received.
Shep is very happy with the toys that he has, and I am incredibly lucky that he has the best friends and family. Thanks to our friend Sade, Shep will never want for Funko Pop toys. But to be honest, we don't have to fill his life with things in order for him to be happy. He's not going to be happy because he has things - he'll be happy because the people who love him are in his life on a regular basis. People are more important than things, after all. I hope Shep learns that same spirit of generosity and enjoys giving to others. He is one lucky little dude, to have so many wonderful neighbors.
Have you built your own community of people who support you and your kid? How has that family come through for you when you needed them? Do you allow family to spoil your kids with presents, or do you regulate the gift-giving? @pi3sugarpi3